Put down the hair crack! I’ve got a story to tell you…
A few years ago, while still a baby at this natural hair “thing”, I had an opportunity to write for an awesome natural hair blog called Frochic. Your natural hair journey is one that is very personal and can teach you quite a bit about yourself, if you’re listening, oh and patience, lots and lots of patience.
I was 2 and a half years in when I wrote about my journey and was losing faith in my fro. Below is a little something I learned that helped me get through it all. I am approaching 6 years of natural hair awesomeness and I don’t regret one minute of it! Hold on sis, you’ve got this!
This is where I went wrong in the early stages of my natural hair journey.
- Adoration overload
It’s good to admire, in fact, one of the reasons I considered going natural was when I saw Jill Scott rocking her kinks. The problem began when I assumed that I could have the same hair, texture, and form, no — completely mistaken.
- Hard work pays off
Going through Tumblr can get your blood boiling shem; I mean intensive therapy might be needed even. The lovely ladies that flood your timeline did not “wake up like that” it takes a village, let’s not get it twisted (see what I did there). Natural hair requires you putting in the work, late night moisturizing, twisting and everything else in between, don’t be lazy, get it done. That’s the only way your lovely tresses will look majestic.
- Your hair, your journey
This might have been my biggest mistake of all. Have you ever heard how natural hair vloggers before every regimen video always go “this is what worked for me” well I completely blocked that out, yes literally ignored that silly statement and went with it? By the time I was done with my 100th hair regimen in just 2 months of being natural I realized maybe, just maybe there was something I was “missing”. The best part about going natural is, it is all a personal journey, there will be a few mishaps here and there but those are yours to make and to learn from, don’t get caught up in everyone else’s journey and forget to walk your own.
- Love thy coils!
It took some time to admit that I will never have Pearl Thusi’s hair, I might have even “mxm’d” for a good year every time I came across her pictures or TV appearances – green monster tendencies, don’t judge, you know you have done it too. There is something liberating that comes with deciding to chop off all your hair and for a minute, just don’t care. For me, every strand that was shed, there was a part of my uptightness I parted with, I began to realize that I can never compare myself with the next woman, I had to experience my own journey, I had to love my hair just as it was. This journey has taught me to love not only my hair but every part of who I am.